How to Control Your Emotions in Six Simple Steps
You are about to do something unwise and counterproductive to what you really want in life. But you don't care because you are so upset and it is going to feel good to do it. Whatever it is, only you know. But before you go ahead and say or something you really want to do, but at the same time would make your problems worse, here are some things that can help you to re-focus your thoughts and maybe hold back on your ranting and raving.
1. Allow yourself to be upset in the privacy of your own bedroom, car, office, whatever it is. Whatever the case may be, before you "try to calm down", express yourself, either to yourself alone (yes, I'm serious), or to someone that you trust, that is unrelated to the situation. You have the right to be angry. Don't deny yourself that. It might blow up in your face in the end.
2. After you say what you feel exactly how you feel it, ask yourself what would be the result if you expressed it exactly like that towards whomever you happen to be upset with. Whatever the result, is that TRULY what you want to happen? More than likely not. So, remind yourself of the negative consequences of unbridled emotion and make a decision, for yourself, to handle this in a calm fashion.
3. Take the time that you need to be able to handle it rationally. I'm not saying if it's your spouse, not to speak to them for weeks. A few hours will usually help you to be calm. Then, if it's something that needs to be discussed, it will probably get better results as compared to what you wanted to say or do when you were at the pinnacle of your emotions.
4. After you are calm, be sure to address it. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that since we're not upset anymore, all is well. This is not always the case. Many times we can just move on. But if something threatens to be a recurring situation, after we're calm, we do need to take some action to prevent it from coming back to bite us in the future.
5. Move on. Don't keep bringing it up unnecessarily. You will only drum up the emotions that you fought so hard to control in the first place. If the situation has been handled appropriately, move on to the next problem.
6. When you are feeling like making an outburst again, think of the good results that came from controlling your emotions and the potential disaster you have overted!
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1. Allow yourself to be upset in the privacy of your own bedroom, car, office, whatever it is. Whatever the case may be, before you "try to calm down", express yourself, either to yourself alone (yes, I'm serious), or to someone that you trust, that is unrelated to the situation. You have the right to be angry. Don't deny yourself that. It might blow up in your face in the end.
2. After you say what you feel exactly how you feel it, ask yourself what would be the result if you expressed it exactly like that towards whomever you happen to be upset with. Whatever the result, is that TRULY what you want to happen? More than likely not. So, remind yourself of the negative consequences of unbridled emotion and make a decision, for yourself, to handle this in a calm fashion.
3. Take the time that you need to be able to handle it rationally. I'm not saying if it's your spouse, not to speak to them for weeks. A few hours will usually help you to be calm. Then, if it's something that needs to be discussed, it will probably get better results as compared to what you wanted to say or do when you were at the pinnacle of your emotions.
4. After you are calm, be sure to address it. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that since we're not upset anymore, all is well. This is not always the case. Many times we can just move on. But if something threatens to be a recurring situation, after we're calm, we do need to take some action to prevent it from coming back to bite us in the future.
5. Move on. Don't keep bringing it up unnecessarily. You will only drum up the emotions that you fought so hard to control in the first place. If the situation has been handled appropriately, move on to the next problem.
6. When you are feeling like making an outburst again, think of the good results that came from controlling your emotions and the potential disaster you have overted!
But wait.............there's more! Visit my site at http://www.elementofroyalty.com. You can experience the health and beauty products that, in addition to the principles mentioned in this article, have contributed to my well-being as well as the planet-positive household items that have added to my peace of mind.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Patrice_Garrick